Brothers and Sisters: The Answers To Your Questions

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Brothers and Sisters: When In Doubt...

My sisters literally shake the house in their fights. They keep on screaming at each other. I feel as though something is wrong. What should I do?

-Court
(purple)

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There must be something going on with your sisters in order for that to be happening, I agree. But, when in doubt...what do you do?

Well, some of us know the saying 'when in doubt, tell the truth' right? There's even a song with that title.

You should go to one of the sisters and tell them how you feel and maybe when they tell you, they will convince the others to calm down as well. Well, it is preferably better to tell the sister you're closer to. If you don't know at all which one, then I guess it doesn't matter. You could tell either of them.

The thing is, they might not want to tell you. If they clam up, then it means it's too awkward to say. If this happens, test the other sister. If she clams up too, it really is embarrassing or awkward, so it shouldn't be your business. Maybe they'll stop anyway, but that's a 50/50 chance if that happening.

--M Ann M

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Brothers and Sisters: Infant Siblings

Do you have a sibling that's younger than you? And I mean infant young.  I do; my two year old sis is a pain to live with, my 10 year old sis and my 5 year old bro was enough.

Don't get me wrong! I think they're cute! But like my bro, he's cute on the outside, but try living with him. It won't be very  pretty. They can be cute most of the time, but when you see they're angry or tantrum side, that cuteness fades away. Here's some moments of all my siblings (including me) when we had our cute moments, which shortly turned into a tantrum moment.

2 year old--This happened today actually. My 2 year old sister was asking for a toy my 5 year old brothers had, the way she always does (Trying to reach for it until she actually swipes it from you. But when you're with my brother, his hands are like glue. That's not going to work). My 5 year old bro didn't understand that she wanted his  toy. She held out her small hand and batted her small cute eyes. He still couldn't understand. She threw a tantrum since she couldn't get what she wanted.

5 year old--My little bro was the one with the biggest tantrum. Not kidding. It was so loud the house shook. He wasn't exactly cute beforehand though. Then again, I don't think he's cute. His tantrum was for doing what "sissy" was doing: being on the computer. Mom and dad wouldn't let him, since my 10 year old sister was on it.

10 year old--My 10 year old sis's tantrum was the quietest ever. Ellen, my parents, nor I remember what it was for, but her tantrum was tears down the face. Your couldn't even hear her. When she was real little, you wouldn't know she was crying until you turned the tv down. In dead silence, you could hear her. Especially since I help my parents realize she was crying. I was 3, so I was still full of energy and awake. I just screamed "Sissy's crying" and they'd be on their way. I was even nice as a kid!

Me--I wasn't nice the whole time though. My tantrum was for a stuffed animal or something. It was something special to my dad, and I wanted it. My parents kept on saying no. I broke out screaming. The usual. Ellen was 3, so she didn't know what was going on. Ya, I was nice to my sibling, and yet Ellen was mean to her siblings. Nice right?

16 year old--Hers was the second loudest. Since this was my parents 'first child' they didn't know what to do. I'm glad I wasn't thought of at the moment. (I know that was mean. Sorry sis!) It went on and on and on and on until my dad, annoyed, so imagine how he did this, (probably swearing under his breath and putting her in sloppy) put my sis in the car and just drove until she eventually fell asleep.

Those are examples of even me, the sweetest and cutest person ever, wasn't so sweet or cute.

Thanks to my sister Ellen and my parents for all the help making this post!

M Ann M

Brothers and Sisters--Questions You May Have

If you have any questions about why your sibling may or may not be acting in a certain way, please put it in the comments below! I'll be glad to answer them in the best way I can! :) If I have no idea what the answer is in your question, I'll be sure to say it instead of not answering you at all! All you have to do, is put your question, and a small little screen name (can be fake) under it. Also say what color you want it in if you want one (if you don't want one it will end up to be black). I'll make a whole post with your questions and answers in it! Here are some examples:

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My sibling won't leave me alone when my friends are here. Why is that?

--Sibling Trouble (green) (black background)

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To: Sibling Trouble

Your sibling just wants the attention your friends are giving to you. Don't worry about it! Depending on how their personality is they will grow out of it!

M Ann M

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My sibling won't stop hurting me at every sight. Why is he doing that?

--Sibling Pain

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To: Sibling Pain

I don't really know the answer to that question. It really depends on what you did or how your brother acts. I'm sorry I couldn't give you the reason why! If this keeps on happening, tell an adult. If you don't it will keep on happening. In order to not make it worse, make sure the adult makes it seem as if he/she found it out him or herself. Make sure they don't say that you told them.

M Ann M

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Make sure you use these as examples and I hope the questions just come rolling in!

M Ann M

Brothers and Sisters--When They Ignore You

If one of your siblings ignores you, it usually mean that you did something to him/her, or they're not noticing that they are doing it and is making it seem that way.

Usually, ignoring a sibling mean basically giving them the cold shoulder. Not talking to them, moving away when they come near you, and doesn't mention anything about it to anyone but maybe a close friend. Trust me, I have a 16 year old sister, and she ignores me from time to time. Usually it's because I said something I shouldn't have. An example is this blog, when she found out about it she was furious, but she got over it.

But---why does a sibling usually ignore you?

Like I said in the beginning, it usually means that you did something to tick them off or they don't notice it. To tick them off to the point where they ignore you, it means you could've embarrassed them, left your chores to be done by them, you took matters in your own hands that didn't need to be your business in the first place, and you keep on making fun of them.

How do they not notice it though?

They may not notice it by not talking to anybody, not just you, being apart from everyone else. One example is my friend, Carter. He felt as if his older brother Matt was ignoring him, since he didn't really speak to him and seemed like he was ignoring him.

When he brought the subject up, Matt said, "Oh, sorry, I didn't realize you felt that way and I was doing it to you."

That's why your sibling usually ignores you.

M Ann M

Brothers and Sisters--Twins

Twins are one of the worst siblings, especially when they're identical. Then again, they can be the best of friends. The question is: how? How can they be both? Well, it's because of how much they know you.

When they know you as much as they do, they might get jealous on how much better the other might be to you. If that happens, then they will fight, a lot. My friend, Courtnney, has older twin sisters, and she says that they fight constantly. Most of the time, it's one making fun of the other, and the other is saying "Shut up," or, "Whatever." When it's not, it can get pretty loud and intense.

When twins can be your friend, it's actually also because they know you so much. But, the reason they can be your friend is if they know your like something, and they have the same similarity. Usually, when you have a friend, you have a lot of similarities with that person. Don't correct me if I'm wrong, because I did say usually. Anyway, since twins have at least one personality they usually can be best friends. Let's use my friend, Courtnney, as an example again. Her twin sisters are best friends when they're not fighting. They have their laughs, help each other with homework, and they help babysit their little sisters, who are 2 and 10.

--M Ann M

Brothers and Sisters--If They Won't Listen To You

Siblings have a tendency to not listen to their other siblings. Sometimes there is a reason for that. Sometimes it's just to bug you. This is how you know if there's a reason...

• If they do it while talking to a friend.
• If you force them too much of something, like give them your chores while you sit on your butt.
• If they show signs of hating you (saying it to your face, talking about you behind your back, texting/calling behind your back) This usually happens to step siblings, but not always.
• If they don't respond and shut themselves in their room.
• If they ask you to stop treating them the way you do.
• If they tell your mom on what you do all the time (tattle tale)

This is how you know if they're just bugging you...

• If you ask them nicely and they don't do it.
• If you rarely ask them to do something.
• If you treat them nicely.
• If they end up doing it after mom tells them to.

With these reasons, it's most likely that there's a reason or something bothering them.

--M Ann M

Brothers and Sisters--Have A Brother/Sister That You Hate? Well, Lookie Here

Have a sister that you just HATE? How about a brother? Does your brother beat you up nonstop? Does your sister tell you that your not her sister? Does your brother make fun of you or talk about you behind your back? Does your sister not know how to love you or take care of you well?

Trust me, there is these types of siblings around. My friend, Carter, is a good example...

Everyday when he gets home from school, we gets an hello from his brother, Logan. What is his hello? Tackling him like he's on the football field. Every hour he has to get through his tackles. Then when his brother, Matthew, is around, oh boy! He even quote...

"You should never put the 3 of us, or even 2 of us together. If you do, someone's gonna get hurt. And by that someone, I MEAN ME! Matt and Logan are fine together, maybe some snarky comments and punches, but that's it. When I'm in the picture, it's not pretty."

That's just one example. Trust me, all you even need is one. When you have a sibling you just hate, then what you should do, is just try to live with them or consult the problem with them. Maybe they will stop once you tell them that it bothers you. The thing is, if they are the type of people that pick on you just to bother you, you should just make it look like it doesn't bother you, in fact, make it the truth! Don't let those siblings bother you! If you do, I have no advice for you.

M Ann M